Moving to Care for an Aging Parent

 

Sharon Wagner https://seniorfriendly.info

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By SHARON WAGNER/for The Herald  —  When your parents or grandparents can no longer live independently without you worrying about their safety, it’s time to consider a lifestyle change. Often, this means moving your loved one into a senior living arrangement. However, sometimes, it makes more sense for us to move closer so that we can better provide care.

Today, Highway58Herald.org takes a look at the process and touches base on things to consider as you make your move.

Is the Time Right?

This is one of the first questions you must ask yourself. But, how, exactly, do you know when an aging loved one needs more help than you can offer remotely? Start by evaluating their living arrangements. If they are alone more often than they have company, their home is unkept, or they go without food, hygiene, or socialization, then they might need a helping hand.

Something to keep in mind here is that many older adults are considered “stubborn” by their children and grandchildren. They may have lived their entire life one way and are comfortable the way things are. They may not want to admit weakness, or they might be embarrassed by their dwindling abilities. The Arbor Company offers advice on how to deal with them in this arena, including being persistent and sensitive, asking lots of questions, and, if all else fails, talking with your parents and their primary health care provider together for an unbiased opinion.

Buying and Moving

Once the decision has been made, it’s time to start looking into buying a home. In today’s fast-moving market, it’s crucial to be prepared as soon as possible. This is even more important if you are also relocating a business as well. This starts by knowing how much equity you have in your home so that you’ll have a better idea of how much cash you have to work with. You will next need to get pre-approved so that you have a final number of how much home you can afford.

Once you are ready to begin looking, an experienced local realtor can help you with your home search. Discuss your budget and your family’s needs, as well as whether you will be buying and selling homes simultaneously. This will go beyond simply the number of bedrooms and baths that you need. A qualified agent can help you pinpoint a location in close proximity to your loved one based on the school district, public transportation services available, and other factors important to you.

When Location Isn’t Enough

Even if you move closer, your parents or grandparents might need additional assistance. If you still wish to be close, but they can’t live alone, you will have to look at your options here. Two to consider are moving them into assisted living or having them come live with you. If you think you might choose the latter, let your realtor know during your initial home search. They can help you find a home with space that is already perfect for a senior. If you’re planning on having your aging parent move in with you, take steps to keep them safe. This can include rearranging furniture, adding non-slip padding to carpets, and installing handrails on both sides of the stairs.

If you must choose assisted living, you can start by talking to a senior care advisor. You must consider location, size, and cost. You also want to pay close attention to the culture, which includes whether or not the residents are happy, well cared for, and have access to stimulating activities. Visit several options and allow your aging parent the final say.

When it’s time to uproot your life to care for someone you love, you can’t go through the process unprepared. Make sure that you know it’s time, handle the financials, and have a backup plan in place. Good luck taking care of your loved one, and may your move be a pleasant experience for everyone.